Monday, April 5, 2010

An Unexpected Lunch Stop

By Kay Wyma

It might surprise all of us to see how even the slightest recognition can profoundly affect someone.

A few years ago, I dragged my crew into one of our favorite sandwich shops for lunch. As we walked in, the first thing I noticed was a significantly overweight woman at the counter ordering her meal.

Anyone with little children can appreciate that, without warning, unfortunate/uncensored/not-meaning-to-be-malicious things can come out of their mouths. I said a quick prayer that my kids would keep any commentary to themselves. It was about this time I felt a tug on my skirt.

"MOM", loud whispered my sweet, incredibly sensitive, 5-yr-old daughter. "MOM! ... Look at that lady over there!" Arm outstretched, her finger emphatically pointed to the overweight woman at the counter.

I couldn't believe that this child, of all my kids, would be the one to inform the diners that a large person was in our midst.

"Sshhh!! Don't say a word!" I hissed.
"But Mom. Can I go say something to her?"
"No!" My word!
Dejected she quietly informed me, "I just wanted to tell her how pretty she looks."

There are some moments when I would just like to moonwalk to the closest exit, or rewind and get a second chance. This is one that I will never forget. I told her she could absolutely go to the woman.

She ooched her way through the line and made her way to the woman. Now she tugged on her skirt.

"Excuse me ma'am," the sweet little voice spoke.
The woman looked around, then down. You could almost see her physically/emotionally brace herself for what she knew was coming. Her emotions were about to nail her, just not as she expected.

"Excuse me."
"Yes? ... May I help you?"
"I just wanted to tell you how pretty you look. I think your skirt looks so pretty with your boots."
(She was right. The skirt did look great with those boots.)

The woman choked out a "thank you" and my daughter skipped back to us.

We ordered and sat down to wait for our meals. The event had come and gone. My daughter had matter-of-factly done what she would have to anyone, any size, any color ... with not one thought of herself. That's where it ended.

Until the woman stopped by our table on her way out. I didn't see her coming, but felt a hand on my shoulder. With tears in her eyes, she said to me, "You have no idea what your daughter did for me today. .... Thank you."

And that was it. For the woman, who felt invisible and constantly judged, a kind word caressed a wounded soul. For us, the words offered a profound lesson on the impact that a small moment of courtesy and other-mindedness can have on another human life. May we always be alert for the kind word, the gentle hug, or the smile from a stranger that can, in unexpected ways, impact so much more than a lunch break.


  1. Such a good reminder! Words of encouragement enable all of us to be and do the more God desires for us!

  2. So true! A great reminder that a small gesture can make someone's day...and that ALL of us are created in God's image!

  3. Wow. I am humbled by the innocence of a child. With tears in my eyes, I am thinking of all of the times I have judged someone by their appearance. Thank you for sharing. No wonder Jesus said that we must become like children to follow Him.

  4. Lisa expressed my own feelings as I read this beautiful expression from a small child! Children are often our best teachers and examples.

  5. Quite simply, thank you! I lead a Teen MOPS group and almost all our little ones are just starting to talk in sentences. This is a sweet reminder of both how our children surprise us and that what we model for and teach them will come back to hug us, too!

  6. Blessings on the mother who nourishes such sensitivity in a little child!

  7. All I can muster is WOW!!

  8. A wonderful example of the way our Father teaches us.