Elisa Morgan
Most
of us don’t want to talk about the not-so-pretty stuff of life. We’d rather
focus on loveliness. Hued sunsets. Tinted leaves. Indigo skies. Golden grass. Holidays.
But I’ve discovered a beauty that God brings in the unseemly, unexpected,
broken things. He brings beauty into
broken relationships, shattered dreams and painful realities.
It’s time to talk.
From
the vantage point of survival, I can see now that I swallowed a myth that needs
to be exposed for me – and for others who have also fallen under its power:
that it’s even possible to create a perfect family.
I
thought it was my fault that my first family broke, when I was five and my
father sat in a white easy chair in his home office and beckoned me to his lap.
He looked into my eyes and said, “Elisa, I’ve decided I don’t love your mother
any more. We are getting a divorce.”
I
tried to keep my family from breaking more when I would hear my mother’s alarm
clock in the morning, push back the covers and pad into the kitchen where I
grabbed a glass, plunked in some ice cubes and poured Coca Cola over it. With a
handful of chocolate chip cookies from the cookie jar, I made my way down the
hall to my mother’s bedroom. There I placed “breakfast” on her nightstand,
turned off the alarm and began the process of getting her up and ready for
work. As a single mom, she needed to work and it was my daily job to wake her
up. My mother struggled with alcohol.
My mother
broke. I wondered what I could do to fix her.
So I determined it was my responsibility to
make an unbroken family when I had a chance as a grownup to start fresh. After
all, I had become a Christian as a teenager, had been involved in ministry, even
gone to seminary, where I met and later married my husband. Precious, stable,
rock of a man. I honestly believed that if I implemented “perfect family
values,” then I would have a perfect family.
Problem is, I’m broken. Everybody is. Even
God’s family was broken. So no matter what we do, we all end up making broken
families. In one way or another.
There’s no such thing as a perfect family.
Instead of fighting this reality – and failing – God invites us to embrace it.
And to see the beauty he brings in the broken.
I come from a broken family. And despite my
very best attempts to produce a formulaically perfect Christian family in my
second—the reality is that I still come
from a broken family. We are messy – gooey in the middle – and I love my family
more than I ever thought possible, brokenness and all. I love who they are and
I love who they have made me to be.
I’ve come to discover that God offers hope in
the form of “broken family values”—values like commitment, courage, humility, reality, relinquishment,
diversity, partnership, faith, love, respect, forgiveness and thankfulness.
He understands that no one is perfect. He knows the unique journeys of loved
ones. He gets it that abnormal is actually pretty normal. That people mess up
and yet are worthy of respect and love and are never—ever—without hope. God
holds each family close, crying with his wounded children, tenderly assembling
and reassembling fallen fragments, creating us into better versions of
ourselves.
God doesn’t sweep the broken up into a
dustpan and discard it. In order to reach the broken in our world, God himself
broke, allowing his own Son to die a broken death on a cross for us. He brings
beauty in the broken. God loves the broken. God uses the broken.
I come from a broken family.
I still come from a broken family.
And I’m pretty sure I’m not alone. I’m pretty sure that my story is likely
yours too.
Thank you, Elisa, for being so vulnerable. God will create much beauty through your honest grappling with brokenness as a GIFTED communicator. I'm buying this one for sure. Bless you!
ReplyDeleteThank YOU! Your words encourage me to keep unzipping - for God's good purposes in our world. How very much we need to know that we are not alone!
DeleteAmen to your sharing about brokenness, Elisa. I, too, thought I would create a perfect, or near-perfect, family after having survived being an only child of a broken home. I had a mostly absent father and three moms (my mother, my aunt, and my grandmother)--all of whom were dealing with broken dreams. And there was no "template" to show me the way to healing. Marrying a guy who was called to ministry seemed a promising way to go. But there we were, two of us broken and wanting to create a loving family (which we thought meant "whole; unbroken"). We had a lot to learn, and we still do, even as grandparents. The Beauty of Broken, a great title to keep in mind as we invite God's loving spirit to flow through our brokenness and put us on a path toward wholeness. Marty Cottrill
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story, Marty. Yes, God is so much more clearly seen to others, through our cracks. Love to you today.
DeleteThis is beautiful. I couldn't agree more! So thankful for His ability to bring dead and broken things back to life.
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